During an adult birthday party, there was a game played. In this game, there were three parts. The first part consisted of trying to throw 3 balls in a predetermined order, in which everyone got a turn. The second part was passing the ball both to the right and to the left, in which everyone got a turn. The third and final part dealt with the host throwing a ball randomly at whoever he/she wanted. This ball however, did not make it to everyone.
One particular girl was upset she did not receive this random ball. She figured it was because she was new to the group and didn’t know everyone else as well as the others. However, she couldn’t help but feel that it was unfair and felt jealous of the others.
How should she solve this feeling?
First she must find the exact point that she got angry. The trick is to trace it back to the last point before she got jealous.
What exact action occurred right before she got angry?
She saw others receiving the ball that she didn’t.
Now the question is, why did that bother her?
She answered, “cause it wasn’t fair.”
So in this case, we have to things to evaluate:
1) Why must this game be fair?
2) What does fair mean to you? Is this the same for everyone else?
If you can find the point of suffering, then you can evaluate it and figure out what is wrong with your perception. Your perception is wrong since it caused you pain. So, obviously your perception is different from what actually occurred.
The reconciliation of your perception and the truth is how you stop your suffering and help prevent future suffering.
